We’ve all been there. We’ve decided to commit to a healthy lifestyle, we’ve replaced the junk with greens and we’re feeling good, when suddenly, some kind of social gathering comes up. You already know what to do. You don’t really have any intention of breaking away from this healthy lifestyle you have going for you… until.. you meet <insert well meaning relative here(WMR for short)>.
WMR tells you that you soo should eat this amazing <insert food here> and that you’re missing out. Still you hold your own, figure you’re not really hungry anyway. But WMR presses on. Here’s a list of reasons/arguments you’re most likely to face.
1) You’re already so skinny. Why do you need to avoid <junk>?
Le sigh. How do you even begin to explain that thin-ness and healthy-ness are not nearly the same thing? That eating healthy is not rooted in aesthetics? That self respect and a love for your body are what drive you into putting good food into your stomach?
My answer: You don’t. Just don’t explain yourself. You don’t need to apologise for your lifestyle or make excuses for it. If the world worked on the basis of common sense, it shouldn’t be healthy eating that requires an apology.
Just politely decline, thank your stars for having the kind of lifestyle that allows you to say no to food and walk away. Its a privilege a lot of people in this country starve without.
2) One day won’t make you put on weight.
I fully agree. I’m a big BIG fan of moderation. If being a good friend at a wedding means more to you than sugar.. then be a good friend. Life is too short to spend worrying about every calorie eaten.
BUT, the decision to indulge/ show restraint should be yours and yours alone. No one else has the right to tell you when or how you should indulge. Its not their lifestyle to nonchalantly wave away.
3) What is all this dieting? I eat all the food i want and I’m as healthy as a horse.
Sadly this one is all genetics and probably true. But you can’t bargain with nature. The deal you got at birth is your only option. So if YOU can’t eat all you want and stay healthy.. then its your responsibility to do right by your body.
4) <Insert individual non-science based diet gyaan> (e.g. just eat all you want and drink hot water lemon and honey in the morning… and it’ll all go away)
*SIGH* Just nod your head politely and move on will ya? This is the age of google. You have no excuse for accepting pseudo-science at face value anymore.
5) There are people in Somalia who are dying of hunger
And they will continue to die of hunger, no matter how aggresively you stuff your face with food. If you want to make a difference. Donate. Be an active part of the changes other communities need. Stuffing your face in a far away country helps no one. Especially not you.
At the end of the day, remember, your body is your responsibility. You only have one of it and you can choose to do whatever it is you want with it. As long as you understand the consequences of your decision, no one has the right to tell you otherwise.
You can always choose to eat that cake… wilfully. Just don’t give anyone else the privilege of making that decision for you.